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Confidence and self-esteem are interesting topics. If no one has either, then why doesn't anyone have them? To me, it seems like people don't have confidence and self-esteem because they feel like everyone else is super confident and self-assured, but what it comes down to is that few of us actually are. I think the problem is that people are too embarrassed to talk about what bothers them or what "problems" they have because they think that no one has those issues. But, really, we all have them! Everyone is messed up, people. However, I truly believe the root of our messed-up-ness is that we don't realize that we are not the only messed-up people. And that's because no one talks about personal feelings with other people. It's a vicious cycle, people. But it is one that can definitely be broken. We all have such superficial relationships with people because we're too scared to show that we are not perfect, yet if we displayed our imperfections, we would see that everyone had them and we wouldn't feel bad about it--it would be natural and wouldn't be such a problem.

I can't tell you how many times I've thought that I was completely messed-up only to talk to someone that I hadn't shared these things with for them to say that they feel the same way. It's so comforting to hear that. So, share, people! Don't be afraid to lack perfection. It's pretending to be perfect that is destroying our confidence and self-worth because it is such an impossible standard to live up to.