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Friday, March 31, 2006

 

Secrets

I was just thinking about secrets. I mean, what's the point? Why is it that we can't tell people certain things about ourselves. Is it from shame? From being too embarrassed as to how people might perceive we actually are? Or, maybe it's a sort of need for superiority. Like a childhood "I know something you don't know." Maybe it's to keep people on their toes, waiting. Hoping the next thing said is going to be juicy.

I don't think there's much about me that someone doesn't know. I guess I don't have secrets. There are plenty of things that individual people don't know, but, as a world, there's not much of me to hide. Odd. I wonder if that's how most people are. Probably not. I think I'm quick to share personal things about myself. That's probably not the best thing, though. Or, maybe it's only not good because no one else does that. It's not inherently unsafe. It's just that the secret-sharing is one-sided, or something like that.

I don't tell everyone everything about me because there's a lot-- a lot of stuff, I guess, that I don't want people (as a general rule) to know. But, someone knows. I think. I'm not sure if this is bad. Well, it's probably one of those socially constructed good/bad things. So, in other words, it's probably no big deal.

Comments:
Just because someone knows doesn't make it not a secret. A secret needn't be something only you know, but rather, a secret is simply something not everybody knows. The world isn't collaborating and sharing information on you, presumably.

Secrets, in one sense, can be used to garner trust. You can reveal some little tidbit that you think is ok to share with that person, without sharing it with everybody, and they will feel trusted, presumably, and in feeling this, perhaps they will decide to put more trust in you. That you should only give them a partial bit of the whole information doesn't make it any less of a secret, just one that is harder for them to do anything with, without collaborating with others. But presumably, if you're careful, you didn't tell everybody else who knows which bits of information. And it's pretty socially weird to go around asking questions about what another person has been told, because if they were to betray what they know, if they know anything, they'll be betraying your trust, and presumably, eventually, you'll find out, and cease to trust them. And who wants that?

And so we have this network of secrets and clever deceptions.

Am I making any sense here?
 
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